convincing the parents (trust me this is nearly impossible)

[justthisway]

This is really long sorry, but i need help xD
But I would still like to hear any miraculous stories of hard headed overprotective parents letting their teenagers away for a bit.

Heres some background info, I am currently 16 years old, and I love traveling, I cant stay in one place or I start feeling depressed (no lie). This year my parents didnt take me home to visit family in Hungary because we couldnt save money up in time. I was hoping to travel alone during the winter break in exchange and go to England (to visit some friends) and Hungary (to visit family). Now I knew that my chances of being allowed to go where slim to none but I truely wasnt expecting the absolute shut down of NOs they managed to give me (mainly my father).

To give you a clue about how protective they are, I wasn't allowed to go to birthday parties or over to friends houses until I was around 12/13 in fear that I would get raped by sadistic fathers? (i guess that happens a lot?)

So I finally mustered up the courage to ask, and before I could even get a chance to finish my sentence, a 2 day lecture from my father had already begun. Everything from rape to murder to mugging was brought up and covered, he even brought up 2 actual examples. The only thing he really had against me that I couldnt get around was that he kept generalizing everything by saying "you are 16". As if it justified the whole entire arguement, and as if it ment anything.

I finally gave up because I was so shut down and immediatly forgot any chance of me being independent before turning 18.
But now I want to go to canada for a gathering and to visit my friend. This will be in toronto (i live in the U.S./california). My friend is 22 years old she is a high school teacher and lives in New England (so we would meet in toronto). I would only go for 3 days: the day before the gathering and the day after! I already tried approaching my mom seperately explaining everything and assuring her that it would be safe because toronto is relatively closer and i would be with someone i know. But right away I got "Your 16 you arent going anywhere"

I dont know how to get around this! I have examples and plenty of others who have met and gone to gatherings that are my age, but they always say "we dont care about other irresponsible parents, we only care about what you do".

And when I asked my father what he thinks 2 years will do to me that will change me as a person. He said "you wont change probably, but i get to keep you away from the world for as long as possible and maybe i can change your mind about moving away for college. after that I would still keep you from leaving but legally there isnt anything i can do."
I literally was so shocked that I didnt know whether to laugh or cry at this ridiculous statement. The fact that I would change my mind is even more ridiculous, because I am just as hard headed as them and this just makes me even more determined to leave home ASAP!

Okay so this is pretty much it, any hard hitting advice?
Keep in mind my parents brought me up with their eastern european "hungarian" ways, so its probably way different for others.

Please and thank you!