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Old 11-06-2003, 04:35 PM   #1
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Hi guys, sorry I've not been around 4 a while, I've been on planes etc getting to Oz!
Well, I'm here! To tell you the honest truth, I hate it. I'm hating every single moment! I'm stuck on a little farm in a place called Gympie, near Brisbaine, and there is nothing to do, and no one around. I'm staying with some friends of the family, who dont want me to go out on my own yet, they dont think I'm ready yet. I tell you what, if they dont let me go soon, I'm gonna jump on the next plane home! I feel so alone, and the more bored I get, the more I miss my boyfriend and family. I just wanna go home!!!!
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Old 11-06-2003, 06:28 PM   #2
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Hayley,

Don't judge Oz by Gympie - you need to get to the city where theres some action. Brisbane would be a good start then maybe head to Sydney or Melbourne, you'll see a different side to Oz then.

I know most small towns are boring but i'm sure once you get to see some other parts of the country you'll start to have a great time. Don't take the easy way out and head back home just yet - you've come so far to be here. Get on the road and find somewhere thats fun.

Hope you don't take this as me lecturing you - No doubt you'll get a barrage of messages like this from the rest of the crew. When all else fails
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Hayley my dear...

I can understand how you feel...But hey! Why not make the best out of it?! Why not tell them you NEED to get out of there and visit, and see some people and find some action!? Ask one of them to come with you, if it makes them feel better (and then run away by the toilet's window at the restaurant and hide in a big crowd...Heheheh! ).

I'd exchange place with you anytime! It's snowing and raining all the time here!You are sooooo lucky to be there! And don't listen to anyone, I know you are strong enough to make your own path. It's one chance in a life time! Forget about the obstacles...It's all about YOU!!!!

I'm with you babe!

PS: all australiens guys I met looked like a man from a CK commercial...I know you have a bf, but you can still look at the menu without eating! Hahah!
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Hayley...how old are you??? How much money do you have...and are these your parents???

If you are over 18, then I would explain very nicely to these people that its YOUR trip, its suppose to be YOUR adventure to a new country, its YOUR time and how you choose to spend it.

If they still give you a hard time, than take your money and hit the road, take a train to the nearest big city get a bed at a hostel and do what you went there to do, HAVE FUN!!! What would be the point of going all the way to Australia just to be cooped up in a small town that your "not allowed" to leave...

I am sorry that i have taken such a militant stand on this, but its not fair for you to be put in this situation, were you told it was going to be like this before you left..i would asume not...

I am not condoning a huge family drama over this, but baby, you gotta make a stand for your freedom!!!

These people are not even your family...GRRRRRRRRR!!!!

I am stressed for you Hayley!!!!!

What did your tell your parents you were going to do while in OZ??? stay on a frik'n farm??? I think not...do what you went there to do!!! GRRRRRRRR!!!!!

STRESS!!!!!
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Old 11-07-2003, 01:54 PM   #5
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Hayley,

Listen, you are probably experiencing a sort of "buyers remorse" that some of us travelers go through at an early stage of our travels. Kinda like when you buy a new car, you're all emotionally attatched to it right off the bat, the a day or two later, you think about the payment and the sacrifices that you'll have to make to keep that baby, and if it's worth it. You can return the car, or make the most of your new ride.

I would also go the diplomatic route and say to these people, "Look, this time is about my journey of self discovery and growth. I thank you for your hospitality and concerns, but I am old enough to make my own decisions" Then, exit satage left and head to the nearest Big city. I hear nothing but warmth from people in Australia (just look at the members on this board who hail from the land down under).

Imagine, if you will, a person from OZ that said "I hated the US!" and when you asked "Why?! Where did you go?!" and they replied "Compton, Harlem, Tacoma, Waco, etc..." Now although, these cities have their good points, you can only imagine what they're missing. LA, Manhattan, Miami, San Francisco, New Orleans, Seattle, Minneapolis, etc...

Do as cliffo said and head out to Brisbaine, or go to Sydney and stay at the Surfers Paradise Hostel. This can help you integrate more easily, and you will be surrounded by many other travelers that have also sacrificed much to be there. Surrounding yourself with others in the same or similar predicament and seeing how they push forward is very inspiring.

Remember( I always think of this quote when things don't seem too favorable): "Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out."

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"A winner never quits, and a quitter never wins."

Don't give up! Your boyfriend and family will be there when you get back.

The glass is half full(don't see it as half empty)!
Many of the travelers on this board, or on any other, would see infinite opportunities there, if we were in your position. Ohhh...the hayday we would have

We have a member named, Crionnacht 18 yrs old female from somewhere near Vancouver. Earlier this summer, she quit her job, left her family, and went to Banff to work as a chamber maid. She wrote a follow up post saying that after 2 (or 3) days, she quit because it sucked! Then had to look for another apt. On a more recent follow up post, she wrote back saying that she got a good job at a bar and was having fun meeting a bunch of people.
I'll look for the link to post it for you, but it's somewhere in the Gen Discussion forum.

We are concerned for you so hang in there and let us know what you need !
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Gympie things to do and see

Hey this may be of little or not help but its some stuff to do and see in gympie maybe help you kill time before you can get the F out of there Hope it helps
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In retrospect, The I agree with the more diplomatic way of handling this, my knee jerk reaction was STRESS, but you must try the resonable way first, like cliffo and TP mentioned...There has to be a comprimise...Every problem has a solution....
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Old 11-08-2003, 11:00 PM   #8
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Thanks you lot, what would I do without ya!!!!
Well, I'm no longer on the farm, I'm now in a place called Hervey Bay, which is a bit more alive. The family have bought me on a suprise holiday, well, its hard to explain, but here goes........
In Hervey Bay at the moment is myself, (19yrs, very lively and lookin 4 loadsa fun) Dan, (16yrs, pain in the butt and probably the most boring lad I've ever met) Peggy (Dan's Nan, bossy, impolite old witch) and Fuddy, (Peggy's Mum, deaf as a door nail and hasn't spoken one word to me since we got here). Well, they wanted to come on holiday, but couldn't afford a carer for Fuddy's personal care while away.
Plan: Hayley's a carer, if we take her with us, she can look after Fuddy and babysit Dan at the same time, 2 for the price of 1!!!! (I didn't actually know these were to be my jobs)
Get this, I'm still a bit jet lagged, so when I was wide awake at 5.30am this mornin, I toddled off to the beach 4 a walk. Met a group of Auzzie's (guys and girls), they invited me out over to one of the islands just off the bay, on their boat. Great! Finally some humans to talk to! Arranged to meet them in a bar later. Went back to the appartment, really happy, only to find Peggy had sent out a search party for me! I am now no longer allowed out without my 16yr old body guard. Wot a load of shit. If they wern't friends of the family I'd be well gone, (actually I would be gone now, but I've left my passport in Gimpey and cant get it until we go back, DOH!) As soon as we get back to Gimpey I'm going out on my own, regardless of whats said. I just NEED to meet some more travellers, and soon. You lot are great though, thank you all so much, I've got a smile on me face now!
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Oh my God!!! Escape as soon as you can babe!!!! I'm sure you'll end up having a great time!!! :D
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Oh my god!!! Hayley.....run girl run...that sounds so awful. The sooner you get away from that bunch of freaks (sorry to be insulting but hey...) the better. Thats no way to be spending your trip. Get outta there asap and start enjoying yourself
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hayley! holy shit!

omigod that sounds so awful. These people sound like hicks. Seriously you didn't go all that way to australia to be stuck with old people and a pimply sixteen year old. I think these hicks have a hard time realizing that a 19 year old female is independant enough to take care of herself! for focks sake! Ya gotta run girl.

g'luck

:greenguy: to Dan, peggy and fuddy.
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Peggy? Fuddy?! WTF! These guys ARE hicks!

So much for diplomacy! You gave it a go, didn't work, get out and get your groove on!

You had a great time meeting that group of Aussies right? Your trip can be like that...daily!

Look at it this way, 5 years from now, you will be older and wiser and will look back and say either:

a Oh yeah, I've been to Australia. I didn't really get to see it though, cuz I stayed with this miserable family in Gympie. They were friend of the family so I let them take complete control of my trip and happiness. They didn't let me go out on my own. Peggy was a witch. Fuddy doesn't speak to me. Dan is the most boring lad. Ohh such pleasant memories. And one time, at band camp...

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b.) I had the most incredible time in Australia! I'm going back! I was originally put up with friends of the family, but after they treated me like crap, I took control of the situation and I was out of there! I don't take shit from nobody, especially on my trip!
So, I headed off to Brisbaine, Sydney, and Melbourne, stayed at hostels met soooo many incredible people from around the world that were unbelievably helpful, nice, wild, and hospitable, partied a lot, and saw some amazing sites! Inquired on jobs and was pointed in the right direction.
That trip was a breakthrough in my life because I grew as a person and learned that I can be as happy as I want to be, if I choose to take action and be in control of my happiness.

Which one of those do you choose to say 2, 5, 10, 20 yrs from now? Believe me, leave on good terms and all will be forgiven in the future from both your family and the Gimps. And maybe someday, they'll just all laugh about it.

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As soon as we get back to Gimpey I'm going out on my own, regardless of whats said. I just NEED to meet some more travellers, and soon. You lot are great though, thank you all so much, I've got a smile on me face now!
You said it, babe ! That is the EXACT attitude that you need. You just have to take control of the situation .

"Success comes to those who make it happen, not let it happen"

Make your travels to OZ a success! Stick with your gut instincts, Hayley. Seriously, right now, it's all about you
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Oh ya, now everyone goes militant!!! I will ask you to refer to my original post....Fuc'm...Time to hit the road babe, just make sure your at the airport when your flight leaves to go home...and have fun!!! Keeep us posted on your events!! You are a Woman, not a child, send the hicks a post card when you get to Sydney, and enjoy a pint at Circular Quay for me!!!

Hey Cliffo, Kat and butternut punkin, this T-Punker is in trouble in OZ, please save her from this hell of hers!!!
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Hayley if ya head to Surfers Paradise about now it should be happening with major parties going on. The annual schoolies week (its longer than 1 week but hey thats what its called) is about to begin.

Basically its where most school leavers head after finishing final exams. Of course they are mostly like 17-18 years old so that may not be your thing but its sure to be lively. Time to get outa the sticks and hit the city then you'll start to have fun...you can do it!!! B)
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If you are over 18, then I would explain very nicely to these people that its YOUR trip, its suppose to be YOUR adventure to a new country, its YOUR time and how you choose to spend it.

If they still give you a hard time, than take your money and hit the road, take a train to the nearest big city get a bed at a hostel and do what you went there to do, HAVE FUN!!! What would be the point of going all the way to Australia just to be cooped up in a small town that your "not allowed" to leave...
You were diplomatic as far as I'm concerned! This was the right attitude all along.

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HAYLEY:
VACATE THE GIMPY PREMISES........STAT!!!!!!

Captain, we've got a 20-12, in Gimpy, Austrailia, we need back up!!!!

A 20-12?!?!?! BY GOD, you dont say, you mean a desperate geriatric granny named Fuddy has taken a young lady hostage!!! This looks like the job for......THE PARTY PATROL!!!!! B)

Have a great time Hayley....The people from Aussies are really friendly.....I guarantee that all you have to do is go to where younger people hang out and your trip will skyrocket from there.......Be prepared for an Adventure!!!
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Ok Hayley this in Plan "A" in operation "SAVE HAYLEY"

Get to the Gimpey North Train Stn, here is where you can find the schedule for theTrain Out Of Hell

Get to Brisbane and get a ticket to Sydney, you will be taking the Country Link train. Do not hang aound Brisbane, they might be crazy enough to come and look for you there...and don't use your credit card until you get to Sydney

When you get to Sydney, start planning for the rest of your adventure and chalk this up to a learning experience...you will laugh about it one day...but not today....

Run Hayley, Run Like The Wind.....
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OK, This is Plan "B" in operation "SAVE HAYLEY"

Get to the Bus Station, there are buses there that can take you anywhere, they are slower but cost less...here is the site for the bus escape...GreyHound Australia Just type in the date and destination and your good to go!!!
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Good work guys!

An article for your inspiration Hayley, as you prepare for Operation: "SAVE HAYLEY" B)


Independent Woman- Why Female Backpackers Are Doing It Alone (also posted in the Travel Alone forum)


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16-yo bodyuard? LMAO...c'mon, you're 19, somebody's bein a bit overprotective here...

Yeah, fulfilling "family obligations" can become tiresome if taken too far. A short visit is great to catch up and get some downtime, but keep it short. That's why hostels are so great to stay in - that's where you meet diaperloads of fellow travellers just like yourself. (Also, there's safety in numbers and so you won't "need" a "bodyguard" then.) Remember, travelling is about "people to meet and places to go." So, keep it movin Hayley, especially when "nuthin to see here!"
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