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Old 10-24-2008, 10:24 AM   #21
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i say ditch. if you've been wanting to ditch her all this time and haven't yet, then maybe she's getting to you. that's even more reason to give her the boot. and definitely not to settle into an apartment with her. eek.

i'm sure she can hold her own. if she has gotten through life this far, then she's not a total idiot and can do her own thing. i'm just guessing, she'll let you hold her hand for as long as you're willing to hold her hand. tell her the truth. you'll feel alot better.
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So what happened? Have you ditched her yet? If not, do it soon so it doesn't ruin the rest of your trip.
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Old 10-24-2008, 12:20 PM   #23
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I didn't burn out until about 2.5 months into my trip when I was in Vienna. I cured it my drinking huge amounts of cheap vodka, sleeping until 4pm then doing it all again. After 3 days of doing this I had killed the appropriate brain cells and was good as new.
Dude, I love your method. I am totally gonna do this on the road during my possible long trip.
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So I cannot just go for the confrontation, I have tried to avoid her if at all possible and it seems to make it somewhat tolerable. About 35% of the time she is OK and I can stand her, but the oher 2/3rds, not at all. Trust me, I have no romantic feelings for her whatsoever... Basically I have told her I am sick of travelling and I am stopping indefinetly and just going to stay somewhere, she wanted to join me but I told her I would not be much fun and that she she go her own way. Allah willing, we will be parting ways either tommorow or the next day.

We just have two different personality types... she is like 'legally blonde does Afrika' at times. Should I flatshare for a short time somewhere cheap or just head back to Canada? (keeping in mind I want a new home, not back in the prairies).
Thanks for the opinions. As far as the bolting, I just could not do it... if I made a promise to someone, I feel obligated to fulfill it.
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I say if you're already there, try to just settle in somewhere you think is really cool.. 2-3 weeks in a cool city and you'll either want to stay longer or you'll be rejuvenated and ready to travel again. Then again, you also mentioned that some stuff was going on at home with your family, so if that's serious, you are the only one who can decide whether you should head back to Canada.
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Thanks for the opinions. As far as the bolting, I just could not do it... if I made a promise to someone, I feel obligated to fulfill it.
strength of character is never a bad thing.

good luck making your decision.
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So I cannot just go for the confrontation, I have tried to avoid her if at all possible and it seems to make it somewhat tolerable. About 35% of the time she is OK and I can stand her, but the oher 2/3rds, not at all. Trust me, I have no romantic feelings for her whatsoever... Basically I have told her I am sick of travelling and I am stopping indefinetly and just going to stay somewhere, she wanted to join me but I told her I would not be much fun and that she she go her own way. Allah willing, we will be parting ways either tommorow or the next day.

We just have two different personality types... she is like 'legally blonde does Afrika' at times. Should I flatshare for a short time somewhere cheap or just head back to Canada? (keeping in mind I want a new home, not back in the prairies).
Thanks for the opinions. As far as the bolting, I just could not do it... if I made a promise to someone, I feel obligated to fulfill it.
Good to see some people have character! I think you did the right thing. I don't think one is required to keep traveling with someone he doesn't like. But just bolting in the middle of the night without telling her? That's low!
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Old 10-26-2008, 09:40 PM   #28
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As far as going back home or settling into a new place I guess it depends on what type of family crisis you have going on at home. Do they need you or is it just a 'feel like you should be there' situation? Ask your family what they think (or at least the member your closest to that will give you an honest answer).

I say pick a new town, far from a certain backpacker that has a hairdryer, and get to making a home. And for that girl. Why not try staying at different hostels for a few nights and meeting for lunch or dinner only. Gives you both the freedom of doing your own thing and you don't have to see her baggage.

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Well I am free, we have parted ways peacefully. I am flying to Barcelona today and she took off to some beach town with some people she met... righteous... finally!

I guess with my situation and going home. I do have a bit of a family crisis, a close family member with poor health, but it is not an emergency or anything. It would not be the sole reason or perhaps even the main reason I would come back, as my family wants me to live out my plans. Its just a feeling like I would like to be there to support my family sooner rather than later.

The reason driving me to come back is more to do with being sick of traveling I suppose. I just want a home right now, not necessarily a 'home' at home. I do think working over here is very feasible, but I don't really want to have to just scrape by. I will be starting a new life somewhere, maybe go home for a couple months then take off, maybe just go to a new city in Canada. ...
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I'm pleased you managed to part ways peacefully. You seem like a really nice guy, well done for ignoring these losers telling you to ditch her in the middle of the night!

I'm sure you'll make the right decision about whether to go home or not. Deep down you'll know what's best to do. I agree that you should try and settle somewhere for a few weeks, don't be a backpacker or a tourist, just live like a local for a bit, don't try and cram in seeing as much as you can, because that's probably what's wearing you down.

Good luck!
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Old 10-27-2008, 11:16 AM   #31
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I'm glad it all worked in the end, and I'm glad it worked out AND you did the right thing =) I personally couldn't handle the guilt of ditching someone. If someone did it to me, they had better make sure they don't cross my path again, else there will be an ass whooping (or some tense confrontation, if its a girl).

Anyway, if you're looking to come back to Canada, consider Ottawa! I'll buy you a beer!
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2008: China (Beijing, Shanghai, Yangshuo) ...right before the Olympics!
2009: Japan & HK, Southern Spain
[size=1]2010: All over Lebanon, Ibiza (Spain), Oktoberfest (Germany), Thailand.
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I hear you on the getting sick of traveling. Best of luck, brah.
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